Every chick flick is about the beginning. The happy, lovey, we just met and are falling desperately in love part. Isn’t that just a tad bit annoying? Don’t get me wrong, I would rebel against any movie with out a happy ever after (as my husband now knows after making me watch “Without Limits”), but they deceptively make it seem like the good stuff is all at the beginning!! I don’t believe that’s true. But I had to decide for myself exactly why I believe that is true…
Garret and I met freshman year of college. He knew I must have liked him after I sat through those darn Lord of the Rings movies three times in a row. It must have been love…. Anyway, because we met so young, we waited 7 years to get married. And you know what? Having that marriage thing on the horizon always felt like the next step. There was always this guiding principle of: The next thing on our check list is “Get married!” So once we checked that off, we immediately thought: HOUSE! Our years of dreaming about our future lives finally became reality when we smashed that champagne bottle off the side of the house. Actually Garret wouldn’t let me do that, plus he said that is only for boats… instead Garret broke his Lenten fast of “no alcohol” in order to toast me on our new deck. He wasn’t going to make it with that one anyway, God understands….
So I’ve married my prince charming, I live in my castle, now what? Certainly the magic doesn’t stop now? Nope! In fact, the next item on most people’s checklists is: BABY. Only that thought makes me cringe. I mean, you kinda have to think about it for a little bit just to be sure- so Garret and I gave the topic our due diligence with a “I’m good, you good?” “Yep, I’m good!”
Yeah we are good. God may have other plans, and if He does, I’ll adjust, but personally I will do everything in my power to follow the guidelines from this commercial. So that leaves us with… oh wait! The societal checklist stops here! We are supposed to be so occupied by check item #3 that the rest gets a little blurred. So if there are no kids in my future, what does my happily ever after look like?
A year into our marriage and I am realizing that the fun really starts here. I mean, I’m content and enjoying the moment and all, but we now have the right to dream up any checklist that we want! Our bucket lists are uninhibited by children or how to make enough money to float our rent. We can make true plans and dreams and forge new paths. And you know what? Writing those checklists together (and checking them off) is truly more romantic than watching Lord of the Rings together. What’s next for our checklist? Ooooh that is a good one, and loaded with answers (see my last blog: What if). Just this week for example we were inspired by a blog detailing the lifestyle of a “dirtbag gourmet”. There is something about vanning it around that gets under our skin. We contemplate all the time about how our coffee truck would look and how we would design the interior. The dreaming is part of the fun of it, but really, it’s the idea that we can actually do it that makes ours a true happily ever after. Anything and everything is possible now and that is the exciting part!
We only find more and more reasons to fall in love these days- which is so great! College Garret and Elle were two totally different individuals from our current, slightly more mature but majorly more excellent Elle and Garret status. Yet I believe that Garret much prefers wino Elle to Mike’s Hard Lemonade Elle. I may have fallen in love with him while he was tuckered against my dorm wall eating a bowl of easy-mac the size of my head, but I also really enjoy the version that this weekend announced that he wants to try an “alkaline” diet. Gotta love the guy. We’ve come a long way, but the way is really fun! Each new interest is another adventure that we can explore together. Just like the couple featured in the blog- he likes rock climbing, she likes yoga, but together they share a love for adventure! And that is how I picture our own happily ever after.Read More